Letting Go can be one of the hardest things to do, coming from personal experience. and when I say "Letting go" i mean anything from letting go of that beat up toy you've had since you were a kid to letting go of an ex girlfriend/boyfriend. Perhaps even trying to stop grieving over a death of a loved one so you can finally move on.
Now, when trying to let go, the whole point is to NOT make your emotions totally hard and shut them completely off, but rather of strengthening yourself to control them better. When first parting with something or someone you might feel empty, depressed, among other emotions. (intensity depends on how close you were to the object/person) Though there are simple solutions.
Yes, I DO know that you do not want to let go, its too hard, it'll break you. I know that if one of my relatives died I would probably be permanently broken to some extent. The key to not be dealing with that sadness is to just not think about it. Yes, i know, thats too hard too, it'll break you. It gets better with time. Instead of doing the classic "sit in a dark corner and eat ice cream all night" get out and
KEEP YOURSELF BUSY!! I really cant stress that enough. Of course your allowed to cry and be sad, thats perfectly natural! but I'd say the majority of people over do it, take longer to recover, or put out their distress in unhealthy ways. Which brings me to, Keeping yourself busy does NOT pretain to getting crap faced, high, getting a hooker, or just something wild for temporary relief. Thats just not the way you should be channeling your emotions. I find myself at better performance when running when I'm angry or upset. Exercise is a great stress reliever. Does not even have to be running, just take a walk, go to the park, go shopping/window shopping, go visit a friend, see a movie, volunteer, go back to work, read/write, I mean the possibilities are endless.
Secondly, part of it is motivating yourself to let go. You can wait around for some miracle to happen that will all of a sudden make you feel better. Tell yourself everything will be okay, because it will eventually. LIFE IS ONLY AS HARD AS YOU MAKE IT, RELAX. I also cant stress that enough either, dont put unnecessary stress upon yourself. Thirdly, get rid of all remnants. This rule is mostly for the ex's, of course i understand you would want to keep some of your parents stuff for memory. Though keeping your ex's stuff around is just going to keep reminding you of them. Get rid of their name in your cellphone, get rid of all the stuff existing in your house, delete him/her off your IM list, just throw it all out.
And remember, if your try your best to move on, it really will get better with time. Do not let yourself get stuck.
(different people have different situations, this was speaking on a general basis though)
Further reading:
http://www.positive-way.com/letting_go_of_a_past_relationshi.htm
http://www.girl.com.au/lettinggo.htm
http://www.aspirenow.com/purpose_1101_letting_go_of_past.htm
http://alphawomen.com/relationships/letting-go-grudges-and-bitterness
http://thebrokenvow.blogspot.com/2008/04/letting-go.html
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